Today’s Chicago Sun-Times has a good article about Charlie Sheen’s recent arrest for Domestic Violence.
“The word is that Charlie Sheen is boozing again and that’s why he allegedly threatened his wife with a knife on Christmas Day. Ah, if only Charlie didn’t drink.
The word is wrong.
Sheen, star of the TV sit-com “Two and a Half Men,” may be drinking again, which is never good for marital bliss, but nobody should put the emphasis on booze for the sorry way Sheen apparently has treated women over the years.
Domestic violence is not about substance abuse.
Domestic violence, for that matter, is not about what the other person did wrong.
Domestic violence is about one person — usually a man — threatening or using physical violence to maintain control over another person — usually a woman.
Drunk or sober, Sheen still has a problem.”
One thing that crops up again and again in Domestic Violence incidents is that the perpetrator thinks he has a ‘perfectly good’ reason he ‘had’ to resort to violence: His alcoholism, her infidelity, their money problems. The first step is realizing that the abuser is the only one to blame and he (or she) has to take responsibility for their own behavior. You can read the whole Sun-Times story here.